You know how Yoruba moms would always advice, "
ma fi boyfren se oko, o ni fi oko se boyfren o."and you have to say
amin?
That is a very valid prayer. However, how can you really know if this
bloke you're dating has yards of husband material? How can you tell?
Well, let’s help ourselves out today and measure if that guy is made for
marriage or just a "chewingum boyfren".
1. He’s About The Future: A
man that makes plans for the future that includes you is someone that
is thinking ahead. You definitely want someone that is just not wishing,
but making efforts to build a future that he sees you to be a part of.
If all your boyfriend is concerned about is this very jaiye-jaiye moment
, then you have to do a rethink. Is he saving? Is he working for his
future? Is he making plans? Are you aware of those plans? Are you a part
of those plans?
2.. He’s A Fixer: I’m not just talking about fixing the broken door, changing the light bulbs. When you fight does he fight fair? Is he a voice of reason or are you the one
always begging whether you are right or wrong and forever patching
things up? Husband material is a fixer, and will do his best to make
sure everything works.
3. He’s Interested: You
can tell he’s got yards of husband material if he’s interested in your
career, your hobbies, your activities. A man that is interested will
always ask about your welfare, sometimes may help you with your
assignments, will help you restructure your CV so you can apply for that
job you desire. He’s interested in your interests.
4. He Invests:That guy will put his money where his mouth is. We are aware that sugar daddies invest money
in their sugar babies but when we are talking about husband material,
he will invest emotionally, spiritually, financially and every other
“lly” in you. People don't play mago-mago with their investments,
you can't invest somewhere and run off...so you need to really take
some time out for reflection, what has he invested in you?
5. You Agree:
Even the Bible asked if two can walk together unless they agree, do you
both share the same values, beliefs? You need to be able to connect on the
same level spiritually, mentally, emotionally to be able to live in
bliss together forever. Ask him about his goals, do you think you can
support him? He can be husband material but may be made of a different
fabric, perhaps Ankara for someone else and you are looking for
French-laced–husband-material…you see? So if you disagree more often
than being in agreement, then you might want to measure his yard.
What other ways do you think ladies can be able to determine if their chairman is husband material?